When it's Okay To Say No to Being a Bridesmaid

Sometimes you just have to say no to being a bridesmaid.

So you've been asked to be a bridesmaid, and while you are so honored, the prospect of participating is so daunting that you want to run for the hills.

The truth is that there is no shortage of extreme reasons that would prevent you from being a bridesmaid, but most of the time it just comes down to overall logistics and economics. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with turning down the invitation, but it's a decision that should be handled with a great deal of thought and care. The last thing you want is the fear of spending $250 on a bridesmaid dress to be the reason why a friendship comes to an end.

Most brides will understand and realize that there is nothing gratifying about having someone participate in the festivities who doesn't want, or can't afford, to be there. The key is to respectfully decline, while outlining the reasons why and expressing your sincerest regret. Offer to participate in another capacity or to help with other aspects of the wedding. Unless, of course, you hate the bitch. Then just so "No, thank you."

10 Top Reasons to Say No to Being a Bridesmaid

  • You're already bridesmaid in two other weddings on the same day, a la 27 Dresses
  • It's a destination wedding and you're not allowed to leave the country due to a parole violation
  • You cannot afford a bridesmaid dress because the downpayment for your quintuplets' college tuition is due the same day you are supposed to buy the dress
  • You are getting married the weekend prior and will be on your non-refundable honeymoon
  • You are pregnant and the wedding is on your due date
  • The bride is your mortal enemy
  • You are having an affair with the groom
  • Your grandparents are celebrating their 80th wedding anniversary on the same day
  • You are being deployed to the military
  • The bride is actually in love with the best man

What reasons have you given for saying no to being a bridesmaid?