S*x Magic, Grief, and Healing with Dr. Laura Berman
I didn’t expect to talk about sex and death in the same breath. But with this week’s guest, Dr. Laura Berman–nothing is off-limits. And honestly… that’s what makes her so brilliant!
Laura has spent more than 30 years working in the realms of sex, love, and relationship. She has two master’s degrees and a PhD from NYU. She’s a best-selling author, Oprah guest, podcast host, and sex therapist to the stars. But what moved me most in our conversation wasn’t her résumé.
It was her humanity.
She talked about grief—the kind that guts you. She talked about pleasure—the kind that lights your whole body up. And she talked about the unexpected relationship between the two.
You’ll hear about:
How devastating grief cracked Laura open—and how sex magic stitched her soul back together
The alchemy of loss and grief, and how it can awaken something sacred
What no one tells you about trauma, the body, and why so many of us are disconnected from pleasure
The raw truth about being a woman who receives, feels deeply, and dares to come fully alive Why your sensuality is not just sacred—it’s your superpower
And the exact moment Laura knew: “I’m never going to be the same again… and that’s the gift.”
“Sex is meant to be a full body, mind, and very spiritual experience… a metaphysical experience, which it definitely is and can be.”
Some of my Key Takeaways from Dr. Laura:
You can’t heal if you’re not in your body. I nodded so hard I probably gave myself whiplash. As Laura explained, we don’t heal by thinking about healing—we heal by feeling it. Moving it. Letting it live in the body. This is something I know in my work, but Laura brought it to life in such a visceral way.
Most of us are taught how to give, but never how to receive. This one lives rent-free in my head now. We unpacked what it means to let yourself be held. To say yes when someone offers help. To stop proving your strength by pushing through. Receiving is its own kind of power. And for a lot of us, it’s the work.
Sex isn’t just physical—it’s metaphysical. Dr. Laura’s newest book Sex Magic dives deep into how sex can be a form of spiritual awakening. We’re not just talking about technique or arousal. We’re talking about energy, intention, frequency. Laura reminded me that your sensuality isn’t shameful or superficial—it’s a sacred source of power.
You don’t need to have it all figured out. Laura was so honest about the fact that she’s still becoming. There was something deeply comforting about that—especially for those of us who feel like we’re always in transition. You don’t need a five-year plan. You just need presence, support, and the courage to be where you are.
Grief is non-linear—and it still comes in waves. Laura described herself as a surfer now. She knows the waves of grief will come. Some soft, some massive. And she doesn’t fight them anymore—she rides them. “See you in 20 minutes, honey. I’ve got some shit coming up,” she joked. But what she really meant is this: when we stop resisting our emotions, they move. And so do we.
Grief and pleasure can coexist. This might be the biggest one. We’re taught to compartmentalize our experiences—to grieve over here and feel joy over there. But Laura’s life, and this conversation, are proof that healing can be messy, layered, even sensual. That we can cry, laugh, ache, and come alive—all in the same breath.
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One more thing I keep coming back to is how Laura talked about how so many of us have forgotten how to be with ourselves. How we’ve been taught to jump straight from discomfort to distraction. To intellectualize our pain. To skip past the body.
But when we do that, we miss the magic.
Whether it’s grief, desire, or intuition knocking at the door—your body always knows first.
Before your brain has words for it.
Before you try to turn it into a lesson or a list or a plan.
And what Laura reminded me is: you don’t have to fix it all today.
You just have to feel what’s true.
To get quiet enough to notice what’s rising.
That’s where the healing begins.
Not in doing more, but in listening deeper.
If you’ve ever felt like your body was trying to tell you something, if you’ve ever grieved quietly while the world kept spinning, if you’ve ever wondered if pleasure could be a portal back to yourself—this one’s for you.
Unapologetically yours,
xx Ashley
Connect with Dr. Laura Berman:
Instagram @drlauraberman
TikTok @drlauraberman
Connect with Ashley Logan:
Instagram @ashleydlogan
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